Submission and Authority Part I

Ezer Kenegdo and Submission (1 Peter 3:1)

How do we reconcile the role of the ezer kenegdo as a helper 
that opposes with 1 Peter 3:1?

“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives.”

man_vs_womanOne of the points of proper Biblical hermeneutics is called “The Synthesis Principle”. This method explains that the best interpreter of scripture is scripture itself. A passage must be examined in relation to its immediate context (the verses surrounding it), its wider context (the book it’s found in), and its complete context (the whole Bible). The Bible does not contradict itself. In other words, good Bible interpretation relates any one passage to the total content of scripture. This careful process ensures that one has the “whole story.” This lessens the possibility of someone taking a verse or verses out of context to make them fit into a biased paradigm or a preconceived doctrinal framework.

Does submission mean never questioning and always agreeing or going along with another person or authority? Or does submission mean having a heart that is willing to yield to another person out of love and respect? Which type of submission does the Bible teach?

The context for the verses in chapter 3 begins back in chapter 2. This is why Peter begins with the Greek adverb homoios, which means, “likewise/similarly/so”. He’s making a comparison. The second part of chapter 2 deals with general submissiveness to an authority. The character of those that follow the true G-d of Israel should be marked by good behavior or “well-doing” (1 Pet. 2:15). Peter’s discourse on this begins with the directive to “submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord’s sake…” (1 Peter 2:13) In other words, we (men and women) are to be obedient to the authorities that govern us.

If we are to submit to every ordinance of those that govern us, what do we do when those ordinances oppose the Word of YHWH? Is Peter saying to submit anyway— no matter what? If we answer in the affirmative, there are many scriptural examples that must be ignored or redefined with some pretty fantastic theological gymnastics, and one of those examples is from Peter himself!

 

“But Peter and the other apostles answered and said: “We ought to obey God rather than men.” (Acts 5:29)

 

Peter was not double minded. He was discerning, Spirit-filled, and used plenty of common sense in his application of the Torah as he taught others. A heart that is set on serving and loving YHWH will go the distance to be a good witness, a loving neighbor, and even a good citizen. But, that doesn’t make a servant of the Most High a doormat for wicked tyrants. Nor does it mean that one must submit to evil decrees, governors, headships, or kings. While a child of YHWH shouldn’t be known for being rebellious, sometimes rebellion is necessary in order to be obedient! That may sound like an oxymoron, but we have plenty of examples of this.

Consider the midwives that rebelled against Pharaoh’s decree to kill the male Hebrew babies. Or Moses’ parents that hid him as a child. Or Abigail going behind her husband’s back to meet David. Or Daniel praying to/petitioning YHWH even though it broke the law of the Medes and Persians. Or the Maccabees rebelling against the Seleucid rulers. Or the disciples ignoring the Sanhedrin’s authority and mandate to not preach in the name of Yeshua.

Obviously, there is a HUGE difference between outright rebellion (witchcraft) and opposing the laws of men that are contrary to the Word of YHWH. I believe the Scriptures are clear on this. We are to submit to those in authority over us because YHWH is the one that placed them in these positions in the first place. Just because we disagree or dislike the way that government operates or rules isn’t rebellion. If these authorities do not force one to abandon the Law of G-d, then one should submit to their authority. However, YHWH is not a sadist. He in no way expects us to obey laws or decrees that are contrary to His Word, knowing it will bring curses or severe consequences. If the government demands you kill your child or desecrate His Temple, you ought to obey YHWH rather than men. Otherwise, you are in outright rebellion to YHWH.

 

Peter relates these thoughts to “wives, be submissive to your husbands”. Wives are to do so in order that an unbelieving or disobedient husband may become convicted by their chaste conduct/behavior/conversation. People that use this verse as a blanket statement for women to submit no matter what, fail to point out the context. Peter is referring to an unbelieving/disobedient husband. Sadly, many equate submission to never questioning or disagreeing with the man. But, this isn’t what Peter says.

Disagreeing with or questioning an authority, ruler, king, or even YHWH is NOT rebellion, nor does it negate submission. You might not understand, agree, or like a certain Torah commandment, but you can submit and obey out of reverence for YHWH. You are even free to question Him and ask, “why?” He may or may not answer, but at least we can rest in the fact that He is perfect and infallible. We can trust Him completely.

Humans however, are fallible, even those in authority. A man (or other authority) that will not be questioned or counseled has a major issue with pride (which is rooted in ungodly fear.) They are not YHWH. They need accountability. A man that believes he is the mediator between his wife and YHWH has grossly misunderstood Biblical authority and submission.

To assume that a man’s actions, words, or decisions cannot be questioned by a woman (especially one’s other half/wife – the one that should know him best) is mind-boggling. Absolute power corrupts absolutely. YHWH placed checks and balances to ensure all people, men and women, have culpability.

Not performing an ordinance, request, or law of an authority that violates YHWH’s laws is NOT rebellion. In fact, it is actually submitting to an even higher authority — YHWH. This is true for husbands and wives too. If a husband directs his wife to violate a commandment of YHWH, whom should she obey? Obviously, I’m not condoning an attitude of strife, bitterness, or hatred towards a wayward spouse. There are wrong ways and right ways to deal with the most important human relationship on earth. We can be so right that we are wrong. The way we speak to others — especially our spouses— DOES matter greatly. Nevertheless, we need to obey YHWH and not man. We must prayerfully consider how to approach one another in humility and love.

With YHWH’s help, we can oppose our spouse when they are wrong. In fact, we SHOULD oppose our spouses when they are wrong. This is a big part of what marriage is about. We learn and grow together as ONE flesh. Iron sharpens iron. If both spouses are believers and serving YHWH, then this is the ideal. Biblical submission between humans is not a weaker party serving a higher or stronger party. Submitting to one another is an act of service and is expected by both men and women. We are here to SERVE one another as Messiah served us.

But they kept silent, for on the way they had discussed with one another which of them was the greatest. Sitting down, He called the twelve and *said to them, “If anyone wants to be first, he shall be last of all and servant of all.” (Mark 9:34-35)

YHWH gave both men and women the capacity to think and reason. The motives of our hearts will determine how we view, interpret, and act upon the many scriptural examples of biblical submission and servanthood. If we have a relationship where there is complete trust and no fear, but real respect and love, then a verse like this won’t throw us for a loop or cause us to wonder about our “proper role.”

A man and wife will seek to please and serve one another in earnest. There is no “power” struggle because respect and love reside at the heart of the marriage, which casts out fear (pride). When issues do arise, they are dealt with peaceably. When one is called out for disobedience to the Word or for a poor decision, there is no fear that someone will get hurt. The guilty party knows that the correction comes from a place of great love and it is received as divine instruction. When a person feels loved (as a woman) or respected (as a man), submission is natural. No one must tell you to “submit to one another”. (Eph. 5:21)

But, what about Ephesians 5:22-33?

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. (Eph. 5:22)

This plucked verse seems to be about women being submissive to their husbands. At least that’s why this passage is usually quoted. Rarely is it used to teach Paul’s main idea. Paul claims that the entire point of his discourse is to show us a mystery. In other words, he is using the natural institution of marriage to teach us something spiritual about Messiah and His assembly:

This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. (Eph. 5:32)

 

wedding-ringsMarriage is used as a parable for Messiah and His Body (Assembly). The most intimate relationship on earth between a man and woman is meant to teach us about our relationship with the Messiah. No marriage is perfect and therefore cannot properly reflect this reality. Yet, we can imagine it. We can also strive for this great intimacy not only with Messiah but also within our own marriage covenants. The “how to do this” is the real question and is the reason for so many marriage self-help books, counselors, and retreats.

 

The answer is found in love and respect. We just don’t know how to “DO” love and respect very well.

 

Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband. (Eph. 5:33)

Paul reiterates this in Colossians:

Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them. (Col. 3:18-19)

People get hurt in marriage relationships when they don’t feel loved or respected. Thus, the human tendency is to build walls around the heart to protect these wounds. Symptoms of this malady include indifference, contentiousness, nagging, silence, argumentativeness, apathy, jealously, suspicion, depression, oppression, aggression, and even abuse. The list goes on and on. The more one experiences these emotions and actions from their spouse, the thicker the walls around one’s heart becomes.

Sometimes past hurts from familial or other personal relationships are brought into the marriage covenant, which can incite the emotions and actions above, creating a vicious cycle. Nearly all relationships suffer from this condition and will continue to be a problem until deliverance has taken place. We live in a fallen and broken world that is in desperate need of the Messiah of Israel. Each of us has areas that needs improvement or that needs to be completely rebuilt upon the Rock (YHWH).

If marriage is supposed to mirror our relationship with the King of the Universe, then your bond with your spouse is designed to build up and bind up these wounds, so that you can walk as ONE overcoming flesh. But this cannot happen without TWO participants that are willing to get completely naked with one another emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically. This is real Biblical marriage serving YHWH as ONE flesh. It requires the complete vulnerability of both the man and the woman.

But, this side of the World to Come, we each have a common enemy: the nephesh/flesh. Since the fall in Gan Eden, our flesh would much rather run and hide than deal with nakedness, shame, and vulnerability. Nephesh hates exposure. It despises looking at “the man (woman) in the mirror.” It’s so much easier to look outward than inward. The fig leaves of denial, blaming, shaming, and oppressing others are preferred to the death of the animal (human) flesh that YHWH provides for those that SUBMIT to Him.

A man should love a woman as Messiah does, but he isn’t perfect. He will fail. A woman should respect and reverence her husband like the Assembly does Messiah, but a woman is also human. She will fail. We must have mercy, patience, and long-suffering attitudes with one another or our marriages are doomed. Redeemed marriages require us to RISK our pride and our hearts (become vulnerable) with Adonai and each other.

Becoming ONE flesh isn’t easy. It requires constant work and service from both partners.  Your spouse wasn’t given to you so you can “fix” them (fix their brokenness/weaknesses). Disciples of Messiah give their weaknesses and shortcomings to the Messiah. While others can help and encourage a broken person, ultimately YHWH is the only one that can offer a maligned soul true freedom. This is why it is so very vital that we carefully choose our marriage partners. It is also why a proper marriage Ketuvah (contract/vows) needs to be in place and agreed upon before the covenant is made.

dreamstime_m_46499792Without clear covenant parameters, expectations, and boundaries, spouses hopelessly stumble from one folly to the next. Blame is placed and misplaced in an endless cycle of misery and bondage. Hurting people hurt people and relationships as close as man and wife cut the deepest. Violations are intentionally and unintentionally imposed on one another mentally, emotionally, financially, physically, and spiritually. All of these things TAKE from another. It is the opposite of GIVING oneself to the service of our spouse. It is the opposite of sacrificial love and respect. It is contrary to Biblical submission.

 

Poor Biblical hermeneutics and translations of the Bible escalate the destruction of marriages. For example, the roles of men and women are contorted to fit inside the framework of fallen and sinful humans. Divorce is deemed a sin, when it is a solution to the sin of breaking the Ketuvah.[1] Authority and submission in marriage mirror the instincts of the herds, packs, and prides of the beasts of the field rather than the male and female created to be the image of Elohim in the earth. Abuse and domination are often justified with a veneer of false holiness or superiority. You get the idea. Marriage is hard; and sadly, religious spirits and the doctrines of men only make it harder.

The truth is that we can’t change another person. The ONLY person you have control over is yourself. The only person that you CAN change is yourself. No man has the power to change a woman; no woman has the power to change a man. Now, a man can physically overpower a woman. She might physically fear him after this and conform to something he demands, but her heart has not changed — at least not for the better (tov). Deliverance doesn’t originate from abuse; rather abuse creates a need for deliverance.

Thus, when Paul urges a woman to submit to her husband, he is not insinuating that she become his slave. She is not “lessor” than the man. She is not his child and shouldn’t be treated as such. A woman wasn’t made in the image of Elohim to hang on a man’s every word and whim and never question his actions, motives, or decisions. The Hebrew of Genesis literally places her face to face with the man like a mirror. Together they reflect the image of Elohim (or they should).

Woman came from the side of a man as an equal co-ruler of YHWH’s creation. She is bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh. This is WHY the man is admonished to LOVE her like his own BODY. Because that’s what she is. They are one. He protects her one way and she protects him another way. It’s a relationship of reciprocity and mutuality.

The man is also commanded to love his wife as Messiah loves the Assembly— to be willing to die for her. This is sacrificial love at its finest and I don’t know any woman that wouldn’t greatly respect a man willing to die for her. This kind of love cannot be faked, and engenders a reverence like no other. You don’t have to be perfect to love or respect the way Paul is suggesting.

 

So, what is real submissiveness?

 

Messiah doesn’t rule over us with an iron fist. He never abused women (or men). He wasn’t a narcissist. He didn’t have a “power-trip”. He never forced anyone to follow Him. He LISTENED to others. He answered questions. He exercised EXTREME mercy. He healed the broken and the sick. He was gentle with sinners. Rather than punish the disobedient —- He DIED for them, taking their death penalty upon Himself.

Men are to emulate Messiah, but they are NOT the Messiah. The parable or metaphor Paul used can only be taken so far. Women are NOT to worship their husbands, or replace their relationship with the Messiah with their husband. Husbands were never meant to be the mediator between their wives and YHWH. Man is not the god of woman, no more than woman is the god of man. Either extreme is idolatry, not Biblical submission.

The conclusion is that a woman is to submit to a man as far he emulates Messiah. So long as the man walks and follows in the steps of Yeshua, then the woman follows also. But the minute the man follows his own flesh, a lying spirit, or veers to the left or to the right, a woman is not required to blindly follow or submit to the man. Or else they both will fall into the ditch. But, this type of submission is a reciprocal mandate. We are to submit to one another. (Eph. 5:21)

Sadly, I ‘ve witnessed well-meaning women blindly follow their husbands. Believing they were being Biblically “submissive”, these women failed to hold their husbands accountable to grave sin, knew their decisions were costly, and they tumbled down a path of destruction together. The sad part is that these poor women believed that by following their husbands they were doing YHWH’s will. In their mind, they had no right or authority to say anything about the behavior and decisions of their man, so they remained silent and the entire family paid in spades. The shackles of man’s traditions and doctrines can be very heavy and the price can be immense. But where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty! (2 Cor. 3:17)

I’m so very thankful that Queen Esther didn’t remain silent.[2] Or Deborah. Or Abigail. Or the daughters of Zelophehad. Or Ruth. Or Yael. Or Hannah. Or Mary Magdalene. Or Priscilla. Or Lydia. Or Huldah. Just to name a few.

I hope our understanding of real biblical submissiveness and authority continues to grow. The more I study the Bible, the more I am amazed by just HOW much YHWH values women. This theme runs in the background behind nearly every story. And, why wouldn’t this be the case? Isn’t the whole Book about Him and His Bride?

 

For more information, see The Biblical Role of Women

 

 


[1] Divorce is a viable solution to the “hardness of men’s hearts” according to the Torah. (Dt. 24) Yeshua didn’t change this law in Matthew 5 if you read the text in Greek. Please look up and learn the difference between “putting away” and a “writ of divorce”. They are two separate, but related actions. Yeshua didn’t change any of YHWH’s laws, even about divorce, for that is the work of an antichrist.

People love to proclaim that adultery is the only “Biblical” reason for divorce, but the Torah says the penalty for adultery was death (stoning), not divorce. Moreover, God doesn’t hate divorce; He is a divorcee Himself! (Jer. 3:8, Mal. 2:16) Rather, what YHWH hates, per the Hebrew of Malachi 2:16, is when a man “puts away” his wife without giving a writ of divorce. This selfish act left the woman in limbo with no support and without the option to remarry. Torah requires BOTH “putting away” and a “Writ of Divorcement”, and then the woman is free to marry another. (Dt. 24) Until mankind is completely redeemed, men and women will continue to have hard hearts and sin. Hence, divorce will be allowed until that day comes because YHWH is merciful.

Please read fellow BEKY Book author, Dr. Robin Gould’s, book on Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible. Let the Word set you free!

[2] Queen Esther acted the very day that she heard of her husband’s rash VOW to destroy her people. This was a blatant role reversal from the Torah’s discourse on vows in Numbers 30. To remain silent was akin to agreeing to a rash vow and taking the guilt upon oneself (vs. 14-15). Mordechai used the language of Deuteronomy 30 to persuade Esther (even though she was a woman) to step up and speak to her husband.

Est 4:14  For if you remain completely silent at this time, relief and deliverance will arise for the Jews from another place, but you and your father’s house will perish. Yet who knows whether you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?”

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9 thoughts on “Submission and Authority Part I

  1. Bonnie Agee

    Awesome, balanced teaching! Thank you for that! This would be wonderful counsel for couples before marriage and all us old geezers too!

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  2. Leah Fink

    Would like to hear you address Paul’s instructions in 1 Corinthians that if a believing wife divorces her husband she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband, and Jesus’ warning in Matthew 5 that a divorcee who remarries commits adultery.

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    • Leah Fink

      Sorry, I see now that you did address Matthew 5. What about 1 Corinthians 7?

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    • Leah Fink

      Fascinating and I appreciate your very thorough response. I will studying the Greek words here further – and I have to say that if I find what you tell me I will find, I am left to wonder why on earth the translators would choose the word “divorce” over “separation” when the two are so different.

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      • Leah,

        If you receive multiple notifications about me responding, please ignore. I tried to fix some typos and reposition my original comments under your questions so they would flow in a sensible way to other readers, but WordPress wasn’t very cooperative. I do hope you’ll look these terms up in the Greek. (You can can even use an online interlinear Bible.) It is very fascinating and oh so very liberating to some many people! (:

        It is quite the mystery as to why the translator’s did this until we consider (man’s) doctrine on divorce. Many denominations, going back to the Catholic Church, hold firm positions that divorce is unbiblical and even sinful. It’s helpful to study this area especially from the point of Catholic history. Protestants after all, are simply “protesting Catholics”, lol. As grateful as I am to have a Bible in English, translator’s (and all people really) have biases. It’s the human condition and inescapable.

        One great question that Dr. Gould asks (and I’m paraphrasing her) is: “Why would Moses, whom Christians associate with legalism and bondage, allow women far more freedom than Jesus, the One they associate with liberty?” I think the answer is can be found here:

        Mar 7:8 “Neglecting the commandment of God, you hold to the tradition of men.”
        Mar 7:9 He was also saying to them, “You are experts at setting aside the commandment of God in order to keep your tradition.

        May Abba bless your studies. Thanks for visiting and commenting at Grace in Torah!
        Shalom,
        K

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    • Hi Leah,

      Dr. Robin Gould’s book, Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible gives a succinct, but far more thorough treatment of the verses you questioned. It’s only around 70 pages and very affordable. (:

      Here is Matthew 5:31-32 in King James keyed to Strong’s numbers:

      Mat 5:31 It( G1161 ) hath been said, G4483  Whosoever G3739 G302  shall put away G630  his G848  wife, G1135  let him give G1325  her G846  a writing of divorcement: G647

      Mat 5:32 But G1161  I G1473  say G3004  unto you, G5213  That G3754  whosoever G3739 G302  shall put away G630  his G848  wife, G1135  saving for G3924  the cause G3056  of fornication, G4202  causeth G4160  her G846  to commit adultery: G3429  and G2532  whosoever G3739 G1437  shall marry G1060  her that is divorced G630  committeth adultery. G3429 

      A few things to notice here. First, the Law of Moses required a man to BOTH put away his wife and give her a writ or bill of divorcement. (Dt. 24) Separating without a written divorce agreement is not a divorce and the couple is still legally married. In the Matthew passage above, the Greek word apoluo (G630) is used for putting the wife away and the Greek word apostasion (G647) is used for the writ of divorcement.

      One of the BIGGEST errors with church doctrine on divorce is in verse 31 above. Notice how the translators switch the meaning of apoluo to mean divorced instead of put away: “whosoever G3739 G1437  shall marry G1060  her that is divorced G630  committeth adultery. G3429″

      In Greek, this phrase literally says, “whosoever shall marry her that is PUT AWAY committeth adultery.” That’s a MAJOR difference! If you marry a woman that is separated, but not divorced from her husband, it is adultery. Simple.

      But the middle section of these two verses also causes confusion. Mat 5:32 but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; (NASB)

      Again the word divorce should be put away. But what does Yeshua mean by “saving the cause of fornication or for the reason of unchasity?” Fornication or unchastity is the Greek word porneia. A man and a woman engaged in this type of behavior and calling it “marriage” doesn’t make it so. According to the Creator, marriage is between one man and one woman and even then, there are restrictions. (See Lev. 18 for the full list) If you are engaged in any of these unlawful sexual acts or relationships, no divorce is required because in the eyes of the Creator no real marriage has taken place. The solution in these cases is to stop the activity (repent) and separate (put away/apoluo) from that person and start walking in newness of life.

      We have plenty of Jewish sources that reveal what was happening in the first century in regard to marriage. Men were divorcing there wives for “any cause” (see Mat. 19:3), and they weren’t giving their first wives a writ of divorcement. This left the daughters of the Most High destitute and ineligible to remarry without committing adultery. Yeshua’s provocative statements placed the accountability back on these men. Sadly, we’ve used verses that set women free to promote bondage instead.

      The bottom line is that Yeshua and Paul didn’t change God’s laws, even on divorce. (Dt. 24) If they did, they would be considered an antichrist (Dan. 7:25) Obviously, YHWH’s perfect will doesn’t include divorce. It’s a horrible, horrible type of death, but because mankind has an evil inclination with a proclivity toward sin (hardness of heart), YHWH’s mercy allows for divorce. In the beginning (before the fall, sin, and death), this was not so. However, in our current time, divorce protects innocent parties and those abandoned, persecuted, exploited, and abused.

      I’ll address 1 Cor. 7 separately.
      Shalom,
      K

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      • Shalom Leah,

        In 1 cor.7, Paul doesn’t use the word “divorce.” We, in the west, assume that Paul is talking about divorce when he purposefully chose to use a Greek word that doesn’t mean divorce. Sadly, this passage is often used to support the idea that once divorced, a person (especially a woman) can never remarry. That’s a hefty doctrinal statement with life altering ramifications to be based off of a passage that doesn’t even use the word divorce. I wonder how many have suffered under its banner?

        First, let’s look at what YHWH says in His holy Torah about divorce:

        Deu 24:1 “When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house,
        Deu 24:2 and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another man’s wife,

        A woman that is put away and receives a certificate of divorce CAN leave and become another man’s wife. However, she cannot then divorce that second husband and return to her first husband. She could however, marry a third man. Obviously, neither the Torah nor I advocate for such, but sometimes these things do happen. Thus, the holy Torah, Paul’s Bible, allows a divorced woman to remarry.

        In 1 Cor. 7, Paul speaks about “leaving” or “departing” from one’s spouse. Divorce is absent from the text. Here is KJV keyed to Strong’s:

        1Co 7:10 And G1161  unto the G3588  married G1060  I command, G3853  yet not G3756  I, G1473  but G235  the G3588  Lord, G2962  Let not G3361  the wife G1135  depart G5563  from G575  her husband: G435 

        1Co 7:11 But G1161  and G2532  if G1437  she depart, G5563  let her remain G3306  unmarried, G22  or G2228  be reconciled G2644  to her husband: G435  and G2532  let not G3361  the husband G435  put away G863  his wife. G1135

        It’s important to recognize that we are reading half of someone’s mail when we read the New Testament letters. Paul was addressing a specific issue that he was asked about. We do our best to properly speculate what the letter said that he was responding to. Obviously, we know that the Lord, Yeshua, definitely addressed the issue of “no cause” divorce and those that were putting their wives away without a bill of divorcement. A separated spouse is NOT divorced. Any relationship engaged in at this point is adultery. Furthermore, taking a new spouse strictly prohibits one from returning to their former spouse per Dt. 24.

        Paul was a Torah scholar and was fully aware of the parameters of Dt. 24 and the unlawful relations of Lev. 18. At the beginning of Paul’s discourse in this section of 1 Corinthians 7:1, he says, “Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman.

        This assembly had written to Paul, asking him about these things. Corinth was steeped in hedonism and according to verse 26, the fledging assembly was under a “present distress”. What sort of distress is Paul talking about? History records that the Believing Corinthians were being severely persecuted with entire families often being executed. This is the setting of Paul’s commendations for the Corinthians. Under dire circumstances such as these, it would have been more beneficial to remain unmarried until things were better. But, as Paul said, if you are already married, remain so! Return to your spouse if you have separated, and work as a team. Do not leave or forsake your spouse. And, if you can’t control your sexual passions even in the midst of distress, get married.

        Later in this section Paul does address marriage and divorce though he still uses different terminology. The following verse is prefaced with verse 26 “in this present distress”:

        1Co 7:27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife.

        Binding and loosing were/are common idioms in Jewish thought and language. To be bound is what we expect: it’s lawfully binding. To be loosed is equally obvious: one is free to remarry. I think what causes confusion is this verse:

        1Co 7:39 A wife is bound as long as her husband lives; but if her husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.

        LAW OF THE HUSBAND

        Torah ignorance has caused a great deal of misunderstanding. It has also robbed many disciples of one of the most poignant points of Holy Writ. Why did Messiah have to die? We will only fully comprehend this answer if we know what the Torah has to say about the “Law of the Husband.” Paul writes about this phrase again in Romans 7. He prefaces his discourse there with, “for I am speaking to those who know the law.” This means that if we don’t know what the Torah says about this issue, we will twist and contort his actual message or at least grossly misunderstand it.

        I’m going to completely oversimplify this topic (as this is a comment), so I highly encourage you to get Dr. Gould’s book. I cannot do this monumental message enough justice here.

        When a man and a woman divorce, another new binding contract is immediately set in place. It’s called the “Law of the Husband”. Very simply, a woman cannot return to her former husband if she takes a new spouse, divorces him, and then desires to remarry her first husband. (Dt. 24) The Torah FORBIDS her from returning to her first husband. This is the law of the husband. The Torah however, does NOT say that she is forever married to the first man and can never remarry, lest she commit adultery. Those are the fallacious interpretations and traditions of men. What Paul is saying is that she is forever bound to the law of the husband — meaning she can NEVER remarry the first husband again. Period. She is bound to that contract as long as he lives.

        The ONLY thing that can annul the law of the husband is DEATH.

        YHWH divorced Israel and she certainly bound herself to other lovers. YHWH doesn’t break his own Torah. How is He going to lawfully take her again without breaking the “Law of the Husband?” Please ponder on this. The conclusion is AMAZING! Yeshua DIED, freeing Israel from the “law of the husband.” She can remarry her first husband because he is a new man. Oh there is so much more to this amazing story! Dr. Gould’s book expounds upon it beautifully. She is also available for seminars, even via the internet.

        Paul goes on to say:

        Rom 7:4 Therefore, my brethren, you also were made to die to the Law through the body of Christ, so that you might be joined to another, to Him who was raised from the dead, in order that we might bear fruit for God.
        Rom 7:5 For while we were in the flesh, the sinful passions, which were aroused by the Law, were at work in the members of our body to bear fruit for death.
        Rom 7:6 But now we have been released from the Law, having died to that by which we were bound, so that we serve in newness of the Spirit and not in oldness of the letter.

        Instead of grasping the enormity and magnificance of what Paul was teaching in Romans 7, we have ignorantly thought he was forever binding women to their first husband in a perpetual marriage. This saddens me greatly.

        I have much to do before the sun goes down. I hope this helps, I know I didn’t do it justice. (:
        Shabbat Shalom,
        K

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  3. Reblogged this on Tannachton Farm and commented:
    A very thoughtful article deserving review.

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  4. Such a rich and helpful article!! Thank you Kisha, for writing this, and for pointing us in the right direction on this important subject!

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