The Biblical Role of Women Part III

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In order to properly follow my thoughts in this section, please first read Part I and Part II. I’m sure the last section elicited some pretty strong emotions in most readers. If my conclusions made you angry or perhaps even fearful, I suggest you prayerfully study the Genesis text yourself with a good Bible program. (There are free ones online!) Even if you don’t understand a lick of Hebrew, these tools will enable you to investigate the original language. It is amazing what a little effort lends to proper interpretation and understanding. I fully believe that YHWH made each of us with the ability to question. While questioning tradition and the Biblical text may feel like an irreverent act, I assure you that it is not. How else does one arrive with an answer unless one first asks a question? As any good teacher will tell you, there are no stupid questions, only stupid answers.

Modern Christianity and her many denominations usually frown at questions that challenge her set doctrines, creeds, and traditions. Don’t rock the boat; we don’t handle storms very well. But our Adonai (Lord) has no fear of storms; He is fully capable of calming the raging winds and rains with a simple Word. Moreover, it is in the midst of these strong winds that He invites us to join Him to walk on the water[1]. And, we are fully capable as long as our focus remains on Him and not the swirling circumstances around us. I invite you to challenge your current doctrine and tradition. Our thoughts are not YHWH’s thoughts;[2] He is infinitely greater than we can possibly imagine. Only pride could cause us to think we have cornered Him with our theology and tradition. Did Paul not say that we currently only see in the mirror dimly?[3] We must always be willing to let the Word mold and change us (and our doctrine, beliefs, and traditions).

Teshukah Revisited

We discussed teshukah in the last section, but I thought we would all benefit from a little Hebrew word study of this unique term before exploring its third and final use in scripture. Below I have listed Strong’s definitions for teshukah and its root, shook. Then, below that is the entry from the Ancient Hebrew Lexicon of the Bible.

H8669    תּשׁוּקה tesh-oo-kaw’ From H7783 in the original sense of stretching out after; a longing: – desire.

H7783     שׁוּק shook A primitive root; to run after or over, that is, overflow: – overflow, water.

AHLB#: 1479-J (V) ac: Drink co: River The pictograph “shin” is a picture of the two front teeth representing the idea of two, the “Quf” is a picture of the sun at the horizon that cycles around the earth. Combined these mean “repeat a cycle”. During the rainy season, repeated each year, the riverbeds become full of water. The surrounding land is soaked with water allowing for the planting of crops. Rushing: From the rushing of a river. [freq. 1] |kjv: running| {str: 4944} Drink The life giving water from the rivers. Overflow: The overflowing of the banks of a river. [freq. 3] (vf: Hiphil) |kjv: overflow| {str: 7783} Desire: As a course. [freq. 3] |kjv: desire| {str: 8669}

In Hebrew, teshukah is rooted in the action of running and overflowing. It is also related to repeating a cycle, which is like a habit or in our case, a habitual or seasonal overflowing. It can also denote a habitual running toward something (or someone). While often translated as desire, the sense is more akin to a powerful turning toward. The imagery of water flowing powerfully in a flood depicts the destruction that teshukah can take if one’s focus or affection is set on the wrong thing.

Teshukah is powerful – for good or for ill. If this type of running toward and overflowing is set on serving the Creator, the result can be amazing! The converse, however, can be catastrophic.  Teshuvah is what God’s Word says that Chavah has for Adam and sin has for Cain. Whatever does this mean?

Thus, the English word and understanding of “desire” is confusing to say to the least. We associate desire with a need, but that’s not what teshukah actually is. Rabbi David Fohrman describes teshukah as a desire born not of lack but of fullness.[4] Teshukah has no need for its object. In other words, teshukah or desire is not associated with lust.

There are two possible expressions of Chavah’s teshukah for Adam. While each comes from a place of fullness, one is ravenous despite the abundance. On the one hand, anything that overflows shares its abundance. We often use a similar analogy in reference to being full of God’s Spirit, anointing, or fresh insight. We have no lack; we are full (in fact, overly full). This fullness compels one to SHARE. It just flows forth from one’s being, causing one to “flood” others with the abundance. By the way, this is the same “desire” that YHWH has for His people. He doesn’t “need” or “lust” after us as the English word implies, rather His fullness (blessings; good) overflows upon His people.

On the other hand, one’s lower nature (evil inclination) has this same powerful teshukah for you and me. Think about that for a moment. It has no “need” or “lack” that it desires us. Instead, it has a forceful overflow (drive) toward us because of its abundance! So what is the difference between Chavah’s desire and the desire of Cain’s anger?

In the account with Cain, YHWH explicitly tells Cain to rule or master this mighty impulse. One’s evil inclination can only be overcome by keeping the door to the house (YHWH’s covenant) closed. Step out to the left or to the right and POW!, sin has pounced on your back like a wild beast. We all must learn to rule over or master our flesh. While the flesh isn’t evil; it can lead to sin if it rules or controls a person.

Sadly, many men think that they must control a woman’s teshukah in the same way that one is to master sin. Keep her pinned in the house, quiet, uneducated, and controlled. This tactic creates an illusion of safety for men. Chavah will not misguide Adam ever again. This approach usually results with nagging, overbearing, controlling, and manipulative women. Or conversely, after years of subjugation they can become depressed, apathetic, fearful, overly needy, and severely insecure.

The reason why this happens is because the woman is denied to live out her God ordained purpose: to be the man’s ezer kenegdo. As we have discovered, her desire to function in her purpose is an unrelenting force. If she is denied this desire, she will (wrongly) resort to manipulation and control to “guard” and guide her mate covertly. Worse, she may turn her desire to be an ezer toward her children,[5] a role she was never intended to play.

In Chavah’s case, YHWH neither told her nor Adam to rule or master her teshukah. Instead, YHWH simply states the consequence of her sin. Though her desire to be her husband’s ezer is unrelenting, Adam will now resist her just as the ground resists him. Chavah’s role was to spiritually guard Adam. She is perfectly created to fulfill this role. But, Adam will refuse her and will rule or master her instead. This is not what YHWH commanded.

Eve’s desire wasn’t the problem or the curse. Men that rule their women in the ways mentioned above are actually living out the fallen nature whether they realize it or not. By controlling and reigning over women, men become testimonies of fallen Adam. A careful read of the Genesis text attests to this fact as we have already seen. Without true restoration, men and women are doomed to relive this vicious cycle again and again. So, how do we bring godly balance and renewal back into these strained relationships?

Song of Songs

The Song of Songs, which is Solomon’s. (Song of Songs 1:1)

Song-of-Songs-flowers-deer-500x334I believe the answer to our restoration is prophetically pictured in the most passionate of all the books of Holy Writ. Therefore, I’m going to devote some space to the background of this book. The Song of Songs or the Song of Solomon has an interesting name in Hebrew. I believe it is worth pointing out here because of its allusion to redemption. This insinuation is why this book is typically read during the feast of Pesach (Passover) and Matzah (Unleavened Bread). These connected feasts are the first of the seven Feasts of YHWH and occur in the spring, the same season for the setting of the Song of Songs. The theme of redemption and unmerited favor flows through these feast days and in a profound way, the Song of Songs reflects this focus.

Shir Ha-Shirim or the Song of Songs is a Hebrew grammatical construction denoting the superlative; that is, the title attests to the greatness of the song, similar to “the Lord of lords,” “King of Kings,” or “Holy of Holies.” Jewish sages explain the title (and first verse) of this book with the phrase, “Which is leShlomo.”  Shlomo means “The King of Peace,” and also “The King Who is Whole.”[6]

Since Solomon comes from the Hebrew word shalom (peace), and Biblical peace denotes completeness and wholeness with no lack, the image that the title invokes is striking. The male figure in this poem is complete or whole. This is amplified by the fact that the word Shulamite (the woman character in the story) is the Hebrew feminine form of Solomon! A spectacular picture emerges; one of a whole and complete MAN and WOMAN. This is real unity and marriage at its best. This truly is the Song of all Songs; it is a return to Eden!

The authorship of this book is generally attributed to King Solomon. However, there are several factors as to why a growing number of scholars are rejecting this view. First, if Solomon authored the Song of Songs, he wrote it in the voice of the Shulamite woman.[7] This would be an odd thing for any male to do in the Biblical era. Rev. Dr. Renita J. Weems has a great point about this: “It’s the only book in the Bible where a woman’s voice predominates and is in the first person. The imagery, the language, and the emotions that are expressed are ones that one would expect and associate with a woman.” Secondly, there is a debate about the dating of the book. Many modern Christian[8] and Jewish[9] scholars think the evidence clearly points to a postexilic work from the Persian period.

Regardless of who penned the Song of Songs, it still remains the only book of the Bible written from the perspective of a woman. And, it is within its pages that we find the third and final use of the Hebrew word, teshukah.

“I am my beloved’s, and his desire is for me.” (SOS 7:10)

Immediately one’s attention should be drawn to the obvious reversal of the edict against Chavah (Eve) in Genesis 3:16. In the fallen nature, Chavah’s desire is for Adam. Here, his desire (teshukah) is for her! What kind of desire from fullness does the man have for a woman? I think the closest thing that we could compare this to is Messiah’s sacrificial love for us. Therefore, this language is pointing us back to the Garden, the place of complete redemption and restoration.

There are many interpretations given for this unique book of scripture. Most often it is regulated to an allegory about God and His people by both Jews and Christians. But, there is a minority literal view that the book is exactly what it seems to be: a sensual love poem written by a woman. In fact, some of its verses are so erotic that its pages are banned by Judaism until reaching the age of thirteen.

For those of you that have been studying the difference between the Hebrew and Greek mindset, an obvious thought should come to mind. Identifying who is right or wrong on the proper interpretation of the Song of Songs is a moot point. Since Hebrew uses block logic rather than linear Greek logic, this book can be an allegory about God and His people, a literal love poem, and prophecy all rolled into one dynamic book.

Since the first level of Hebraic Bible interpretation is literal, I suggest reading the Songs of Songs in this way first, ignoring the allegorical flashes and hints of prophecy. Only after one has discovered the richness of the physical love between man and woman, can one properly appreciate the spiritual significance of the book. They are both equally important to the Hebrew mindset.

The Woman

Interestingly, the Shulamite woman in this little book[10] of scripture challenges most ancient and modern characterizations of the ideal woman. She is not quiet, meek, passive, or reserved. In fact, she shamelessly describes her uninhibited desire for her lover and seeks after him. Her voice is vigorous, and filled with passion and determination. The text doesn’t demonize or criticize her suggestive behavior. Dr. Weems says, “There’s no kind of moral voice, third-person voice that inserts itself into the story that suggests that women like this come to a bad end. That they’re punished, that they are killed.”[11]

The Shulamite’s directness cannot be understated. Her proclamation in 7:10, is extended by another apparent role reversal from cultural norms in chapter 8:

“Put me like a seal over your heart, Like a seal on your arm. For love is as strong as death, jealousy is as severe as Sheol; Its flashes are flashes of fire, The very flame of the LORD. “Many waters cannot quench love, Nor will rivers overflow it; If a man were to give all the riches of his house for love, It would be utterly despised.” (SOS 8:6-7)

signet seal

Seal of Baruch

A signet ring bears the image of its owner’s seal. Anything with the seal’s image pressed upon it becomes property of or a decree of the owner. The ancient seal that the Shulamite woman refers to, is most often associated with royalty. Can you see the imagery of ownership in the “seal”? In our case, the reversal is that it is a woman that requests this of her man. She, as true ezer kenegdo, is assuming responsibility for her man (in an opposite but equal way that he takes responsibility for her). A man leaves his father and mother (his original guardians) to be joined with his wife (his new guardian). This is a return to God’s original design. In reality, the man and woman take possession of one another, because they are one flesh.

This concept is further solidified by the woman comparing love with jealousy. The Hebrew word for jealousy, kinah, implies possession and right of property.[12] Since the fall, men have had no issue with seeing their wives as property or possessions to do with as they please. The problem has been that women have been denied the same right. Paul even reminds them:

1 Cor. 7:4 (NASB) The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise, also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

The man in the Song of Songs has relinquished his fallen nature of domination, and restores the woman to the role of ezer kenegdo. Both the man and the woman are functioning in their purpose. No longer does the ground resist Adam; no longer does Adam resist Chavah. They are one. They are equal. This reunion can have only one result: an erotic love affair. Do you find it as intriguing as I do that this prophetic glimpse of restoration is in the midst of the most explicit book of love in all of Scripture?

What does all this mean for the ezer kenegdo or the woman? What does her role actually entail compared to man’s? Biblically, how are men and women meant to function in the believing community? What does redeemed marriage look like? There is still more to come on this captivating topic. We will start with the Proverbs 31 woman in Part IV.

[1] Mt. 14:23-33

[2] Is. 55

[3] 1 Cor. 13:12

[4] Fohrman, Rabbi David, The Beast that Crouches at the Door. Baltimore: HFBS Publishing, 2011. Kindle file.

[5] Dr. Moen fully explores this concept in Guardian Angel.

[7] Patsy Rae Dawson, a Christian marriage and sex counselor, agrees with my sentiments:

[8] Coogan, Michael. A Brief Introduction to the Old Testament. Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2009, p. 394

[10] It’s only 117 verses long.

[12] See the Ancient Hebrew Lexicon of the Bible under the entry: Strong’s #7068: AHLB#: 1428-E (N1).

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9 thoughts on “The Biblical Role of Women Part III

  1. Wow! Can I click “Like” another 10 times? This really spoke to me. Thank you!


  2. Catherine,

    In another place you had commented about Paul. I thought I’d respond here to keep your thought in context for other readers. Hope that’s okay. 🙂

    Poor Paul. His writings seem to always come up no matter the issue. You can probably guess my opinion on women teaching by reading my blog. But, I certainly don’t condone rebelling against our leadership in the congregation setting. As I’m sure you and my other readers would agree. However, I do believe the body suffers when half the assembly is silenced because of a couple of (misunderstood) verses from Paul’s letters. Dr. Skip Moen’s book, Guardian Angel, directly addresses some of these questions about Paul.

    I have struggled throughout the years over the role of women. I’ve cried out to YHWH on numerous occasions. Ultimately, above all I want to be obedient to YHWH and fulfill the purpose He has for my life. The last thing I desire is to be rebellious. I realize the Hebraic Roots movement is rather torn over this issue as well. There are strong beliefs and emotions on both sides of the argument.

    This year, I believe YHWH has set me free from a lot of bondage brought about by the curse in this area. The more I learn about the biblical role of women, I am compelled to tell other women how awesome our role is. We are not God’s last resort or His second best (as it was implied to me in church). That is liberating. I so want the next generation of young women to fully grasp this. To be strong and balanced. To be mighty warriors and gentle servants. To simply be ALL YHWH created us to be. To walk humbly in restoration. 🙂


    • Thank you Yiska! Yes, this answers my question. Your teaching is very inspirational. I was confronted with the “I do not permit a woman to teach” argument and soon found myself searching for answers. A commentator wrote that the Greek words for “husband” and “wife” were all of a sudden translated “man” and “woman” in that passage of Scripture (1 Timothy 2:12). And so the battle of the sexes needlessly begins. I’m so thankful for everything you’ve written.


  3. “I am my beloved’s, And his desire is for me”. (SOS 7:10)

    Immediately our attention should be drawn to the obvious reversal of the edict against Chavah (Eve) in Genesis 3:16.”

    Could this have anything to do with “Bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh, therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife?”

    I wonder if there is a link to her saying “I am my beloved’s” that has to do with the woman being taken from man, and his desire being linked to leaving all others and cleaving to his wife. Do you have any thoughts on this?

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    • I think you’ve hit the nail on the head! In the restoration, all things will return to the Edenic ideal, which includes the proper unity and oneness expressed by “bone of bone and flesh of flesh.” Most notably, and the grandest of this fulfillment, is us being the Body of Messiah. It is from His Body, that (IMO) the Bride of Messiah will emerge.

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      • K. Gallagher,
        I wanted to say how much I appreciate your work and website! I have no previous exposure to the Jewish sect of Christianity but three weeks ago I had a dream that a Messianic Christian man came to meet me and he told me that in their understanding of the Bible husband and wife are equals and that I don’t have to suffer or worry anymore. I told my parents about this dream and they encouraged me to research Jewish Christianity. When I stumbled upon your website last week, I was in absolute shock, I mean big time surprised! This was such a huge confirmation for me. Also, one thing I struggle with in regards to Christian egalitarianism is that they do not allow any room for certain attributes unique to each gender that proves itself over and over again in the natural flow of things. It is refreshing to see that you still keep to some differences in the two natures of men and women.

        I have been an egalitarian with CBE for 14 years and in the past ten years, I have worked with Christian women both in the USA and overseas who have been abused by complementarianism. A month ago when I was driving in my car weeping over how Christian men domineer their wives, I heard the Lord so loudly in my mind tell me, you’ve got it all backward, it’s the other way around, and Proverbs 31 came to my mind. After that, I started an in-depth study of Proverbs 31 and noticed that it was the woman who leads and builds her house up. She is the provider and protector. My mind immediately made a link to Ezer Kenegdo in Genesis but I could not prove it. A few days after that, when debating with a complementarian man, out of anguish I blurted out that it is all backward, that women are builders of the home and culture in society. I listed all of the reasons that I could think of. The man was to leave his family and join to his wife not the other way around. Babies come out of the bodies of women and return back to the breast of a woman during infancy. The man turns towards the woman and unites to her body during sexual relations. All roads lead to her as the nucleus of the family. The woman needs to nest and prepare the home to make it suitable for bringing up children thus she is a natural manager of the home. Most studies show women are better with managing money when it comes to the family. Women have this innate ability to foresee danger and risk when they counsel their husband on decisions. Proverbs 14:1 says that the wisdom of women builds her house up, not a wise woman, but the unique wisdom of womankind in that it takes a foolish woman to tear it down. Proverbs 31 describes her as the Patron of her family. I got laughed at when I said these things, but now after finding your website, I feel vindicated!

        Thank you so much for teaching these things. The Lord revealed a lot of these things to me privately but I was without scriptural proof because I did not understand the Jewish interpretation of things. If its alright with you, I would like to share some information with you privately about Ephesians 5 that I have come across to ask your opinion. Would it be alright to communicate in private?


        • Amen! And, praise Adonai! I’d love to hear your thoughts. You can email me privately at (There is no “i” in “in” in the address.) May Abba continue to expand our understanding of our service to Him, the Body, and our families!


  4. Rachel

    So much of what you say makes wonderful, beautiful, complete, restorative sense. I have over the past few years been drawn to studying the original language myself, but there is so much I do not understand. However, I’m really struggling with the idea that the woman is all these things for man. We naturally give of our bodies and our whole being in so many ways. I do agree with this. But I cannot see past the fact that men were called to love their wives unconditionally, and women to be fond of their husbands in return. And our culture is so upside down because of the history from time beginning of husbands turning away from their wives and the purpose for which she was created as a mirror image of man to keep him from being alone. That is her #1 purpose! To give him intimate communication, relationship, companionship, closeness, and for the sake of reproduction that continues this. She bleeds (something else that also happens in cycles/seasons) and she is “saved through her childbearing.” Can you explain this? Everything in society seems to point to the failure of men, creating suffering that leads to a rising up of women who then attempt to usurp authority over men because of their lack of appropriate authority … and by the time this happens, society is almost always doomed! You can see the same pattern throughout history. I would VERY much appreciate a response and perhaps a private discussion, if possible, though I understand if not. I also would like to know what your resources have been for studying the original languages. That to me is the most fascinating part of what I’ve read. I have learned a lot so far from your blog and am very thankful. .


    • Thank you for your kind words, Rachel. I pray you enjoy the struggle as you wrestle with the Scriptures! It might be helpful if I emphasize that this series in no way is meant to elevate women above men in any respect. And, I completely agree with your thoughts about our culture in regard to men and women. Modern feminism desires to make women into men, and men into women. It’s ridiculous. Though women’s suffrage and basic rights were a good thing, it quickly morphed into a perversion. We are living in that fallout now, which only exasperates marriage issues.

      Dominance is the nature of beasts. When either sex seeks to dominate, oppress, or belittle the other, this is the fallen nature. In the beginning, it was not so. Both the male and the female were given the mandate to be fruitful and multiply, and to rule over the beasts of creation (including their own lower, beast like nature.) No where did God command humans to dominate or subject other humans to their own rule. Yet, that is what we see occurring in every society on earth, since the fall. It results in great suffering and oppression, most especially, to those deemed weaker physically. We need to learn to think and live as One Body, not a herd of cattle or pride of lions.

      I have some thoughts on 1 Tim. 2:15, but they would require too much space to devote here. However, for cultural context, this article by Marg Mowczko is good one:

      As for Hebrew learning, it depends what level you are currently at. For a beginner, Hebrew for Christians is a great place to start: (Check out the workbook he offers.) For an affordable correspondence course, I recommend Easy Hebrew: And, for more involved and advanced learning, I recommend Ulpan-Or:

      I hope this helps! Also, feel free to email me at



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