The woman said to the serpent, “From the fruit of the trees of the garden we may eat; but from the fruit of the tree which is in the middle of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat from it or touch it, or you will die.'” (Gen. 3:2-3 NASB)
Woman is designed to be a boundary setter. As such, she protects and guards her husband’s obedience to YHWH and teaches her children. This is her God designed purpose. But, what happens when she steps outside of her function?
I touched on this in The Biblical Role of Women Part II. If you recall, Chavah (Eve) was the first human being to initiate a “fence-law” around God’s Word. In other words, she “added” to the commandment probably in hopes of protecting her and Adam’s obedience. But this failed miserably.
I can relate to Chavah’s tactics. As a wife and mother, I have been known to be a little overprotective. I, like Eve, have often set boundaries above and beyond protocol. My intentions are loving protection whether I’m dealing with my husband or my children. But how far is too far?
What I’m having a hard time getting a handle on is where the balancing line is on this. Obviously, I can take a cue from Eve and ensure that my “boundaries” don’t exceed the written Word of Yah. Yet, I believe this issue of balance is difficult for all women.
Perhaps we have a trust problem. Or maybe our fallen nature is still beckoning us to try and improve upon our role as ezer. Regardless, this is a concern that all women must seek to overcome in Messiah.
As women, we must keep our eyes on Adonai or we are doomed to walk as fallen Chavah (Eve) and resort to manipulating those we love. Good intentions are not enough to keep us balanced. We must keep this truth at the forefront of our minds and hearts or we will find ourselves subtlety forcing our husbands to do what WE desire. Though the Ruach HaKodesh may have revealed to us the goal, path, or next step in YHWH’s plan for our husbands or marriage, it does NOT give us the right to MAKE it happen. We must act with humility and grace. Like the Holy Spirit, our still, small voice has much more power than an evil controlling spirit!
Resist the temptation to act as Chavah did. In our natural mind, it may seem “safer” to say: “Don’t you eat it… don’t even touch it!”, when in reality the only real harm comes from eating. Can you hear yourself “adding” to the Word or what is necessary —- or is it just me?